December 09, 2003
Urg.
So, this guy in my class found my blog (can't say I was hiding it too well since I mentioned it in class several times). In particular, he found this post. He then sent it to some of my classmates (maybe all of them, who knows) and most importantly, to the teacher I mention in the post. Now, again, I might be naive and trusting, but I'm pretty stunned by this guy's actions. Maybe I'm not competitive enough or don't see hurting other people as a way to better my own life, but it seems clear that I'm quickly falling into the minority on these. So I have to ask: what is your take on this, dear readers? Why would someone do such a thing?
I have to admit that it's pretty funny that the thing I wanted to do most after learning of his actions is blog about it. Considering. :-)
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Obviously he was unaware of the pain that he has brought upon himself. The Jackhole in question has no idea what happens to loose tounges in Brooklyn, he will soon find out.
Posted by: William V. Negherbon at December 9, 2003 04:40 PMThis has happened to me before too (College Republican hate mail, anyone?). Sadly, people don't view anything on the internet as private, and when it's in writing, they're happy to share it.
Also last year, I wrote a letter to the editor of my hometown paper. Rather than print it, they gave it to the institution I had complained about to write a non-historical rebuttal that was basically an attack on my character.
People just have no sense of ethics; they will use anything and everything against you.
Nonetheless, I'm sorry it happened to you.
Posted by: candace at December 9, 2003 05:01 PMah, such is the nature of the internet. A record of all our written word. And with such off-the-cuff, immediate publishing, we lack the editorial corrective advantage, yet have a monopoly on the passion.
So what if your teacher finds out. Just be true in your writings. Don't exaggerate. Don't lie. Think about all the people Rush and other pundits trash. Then imagine meeting these people face-to-face.
I think it is best not to jump to conclusions, not jump on the name-calling band-wagon, and have confidence your thougths and writings are protected by free speech.
Your teacher can equally point out your writing in class, but the moment he tries to punish you for it he is crossing the line. You know a lot of lawyers - don't sweat.
Hopefully he will see some light, and in the end you will have opened not only his eyes, but introduced a conversation in his class he could not have concocted himself. You will be the winner.
Posted by: Scott S at December 9, 2003 05:02 PMI'm not worried about the teacher penalizing me though I do feel bad for possibly hurting his feelings. I didn't say anything inaccurate or that I take back in any way. It's more about the guy who sent my teacher the email. What kind of person does something like that? I'm really surprised though I guess I shouldn't be. Let me just say, it makes me look extra forward to tonight's Bush meetup and not only for the drinking.
Posted by: Kashei at December 9, 2003 05:11 PMHe's not competitive at all. He's just a cheat. This mental midget is probably just intimidated by your intellectual superiority.
Posted by: Peter at December 9, 2003 05:19 PMHey, your link is broken (your URL has "/archives..." twice).
In any case, it really is a good rule of thumb to assume that anything you write gets read by the worst possible person.
I once mentioned a college friend's wife by name. And of course, her students (she's a high school teacher) found the entry where, lower down, I talked about partying that weekend (thankfully, not in graphic detail).
Here's what I would do:
As far as what to do with the classmate, I say you question his manhood. Ask him why he forwarded this to the prof. and what is he, some tattletale crybaby? A gossiping yenta? A catty bitch?
And as far as the prof. goes, I say you should speak to him in his own liberal Poly-Sci terms. The professor-student relationship is inherently unequal and your blog is a way of reclaiming some of that power by expressing your thoughts. And then jokingly prod him into admitting that, yes, he has bitched about his students where he could have been overheard.
Posted by: Joe Grossberg at December 9, 2003 06:28 PMI don't understand why you feel this guy did something bad. Whether or not his intention was to make you look bad is irrelevant. You posted this blog to the world, and that world includes your professor and class. To wish that some people can not have access is censoring yourself and ultimately limiting your growth.
I remeber one of my first posts that got a scathing comment. I immediately turned red, sitting at home, alone, fresh off an attack by this somewhat anonymous person. I "felt" as if I had done something wrong because we are trained to feel that way when others criticize us. Just as you say you might be soft or not competitive enough, so are most people.
Let this example reinforce your beliefs. Let this incident strengthen your resolve. Fight fair, but do not give up the fight.
Next time you see that student, tell him "It's about time you guys started reading my blog. Thanks for the support."
Walk away knowing you are Right and we'll back you up.
Posted by: Scott S at December 9, 2003 06:33 PMActually, I completely agree with you, Scott S... must sit down now, getting woozy. ;)(Besides,K, that's at least two hits!)
Posted by: Dawn Summers at December 9, 2003 07:27 PMI agree 100% with Scott S.
PLUS.
This happened to you because you are a conservative and he is a left-wing jerk. These incidents happen to conservative students day after day in college after college. Standing up to this will add to your mental toughness that is needed to succeed in life.
So continue to be a angel of truth and light in the sea of left-wing darkness and you will gain valuable life skills.
Posted by: Jake at December 9, 2003 10:48 PMI agree with scott, Jake and by default Dawn also I guess. So while the dead are tossing snowballs in hell I'll just add your situation is exactly why I'm so nervous and constantly rethinking my posts.
Posted by: Scott at December 9, 2003 11:04 PMScott S - Absolutely. Best advice ever.
Posted by: candace at December 9, 2003 11:19 PMOk, my point isn't defending what I said. I stand by it. Can you imagine someone that you see every day doing something like this, for no reason other than to do something bad to you? Look at it from that angle. You all know I'm for free speech in both directions, both for me to say it and for me to be criticized for it. It's just the 'betrayal' factor that stunned me so bad. What kind of person do I need to become to understand it? Tell me.
Posted by: Kashei at December 9, 2003 11:54 PMBetrayal? Maybe. I don't know what relationship you have/had with him. But I suspect that is too harsh a word. Do you feel violated - as if he perused your political mind for one damaging fact and then forwarded it to others. The media does this crap every day. In fact, it may be one of the best/worst things about our nation. Openness. Sounds like this guy did not slander you, but instead offered up your own words to let others judge you. Once again, that's ok. Your readership will go up - isn't that good?
Posted by: Scott S at December 10, 2003 10:45 AMWe're not close but we see each other every day. We have enough interaction for this to be wrong.
Posted by: Kashei at December 10, 2003 11:06 AMI think the main point is Kashei's questioning of his ulterior motives ... i.e. kiss up to the prof. and make a competing student look like crap, by highlighting K's criticism of the class.
Posted by: Joe Grossberg at December 10, 2003 12:40 PMYes Joe, exactly.
Posted by: Kashei at December 10, 2003 12:50 PMSending the email to the class and teacher is very strange. It would be one thing if it came up in conversation or something but to email the post, very odd. I wouldn't agree to any group study sessions.....
Posted by: DTDT at December 10, 2003 12:57 PMWow... so sneaky and pathetic and sad... this guy obviously thought you don't have immeasurable pride in what you write.
I think my question is; what did he think you were going to feel by his actions? Did he think you'd be embarrassed? Why would you? You're a genius with an outlet... it's not like your site is anything scandalous or trite... it's brilliant.
Maybe, like with other 3rd graders... he has a crush on you and didn't know how to convery it. I guess he thought he'd out your brilliance.
Clearly, he knew flashing you would be a waste of his tiny.
Oh... time. Yeah... lol... I meant time. Not tiny. Ha!
Posted by: Ari at December 10, 2003 01:37 PMHow is his sending the email to the class/prof any different from us sending our "discoveries" to people? Bloggers find things they don't like and post them (e-mail them too) in an effort to expose and offer opposing views.
Does "discussion" render the fact that we're talking about this guy any more worthy than if kashei just posted his actions?
Why is this up-close and personal issue any different from any of us criticizing some Dem for something they posted on their site?
The answer: because it is too personal for some of you.
Now come on, grow up. This guy was criticizing kashei. Plain and simple. We do that every day to people we don't know personally. This "insider criticism" crap has got to stop. Stop acting like he had to follow some rules such as posting a comment on kashei's blog entry rather than what he did. There are no rules. I can't believe this has gone on this long already...
Posted by: Scott S at December 10, 2003 01:59 PMKashei you have to be careful about telling certain people about your blog if you don't want them reading it. Since you did mention it in class several times, in front of the professor I presume?
If it wasn't in front of the professor then I am more apt to agree with you.
It was in a different class and I actually never said the URL so much as 'I have a blog' (because blogs have been coming up as campaign tools).
Posted by: Kashei at December 10, 2003 05:26 PMThat rat son-of-a-bitch!!!!!! Do you want me to pay him a little visit?
Frank "send the dogs" White


