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April 03, 2007

Offense

I'm not offended by what Michael Ray Richardson said about Jews. I'm just not. It usually takes a lot to offend me, though anything involving Judaism or Israel can come a lot closer than other insults.

A few years ago I was in Paris with my mother and brother. Outside a restaurant, one night after dinner, I met a guy with long hair holding a 500-page French book but speaking perfect English. We ended up having a long conversation, exchanged email addresses and went our separate ways.

We stayed in touch as he traveled around the world. He'd call me from places like Mali and was always funny, cool and interesting.

One day his travels brought him to NY and we met up. It was shortly after 9/11 and the conversation turned to politics. When he saw my hawkish perspective he said "Wait. Are you a Hebrew?"

I despised the way he said it and ended our friendship there (though I did randomly run into him outside a Belle&Sebastian show a few months later). He didn't say anything bad, really, and maybe Hebrew is used synonymously with Jewish, but I hated the way it sounded, hated the way he assumed I'd have certain positions because I am Jewish, and felt offended by his tone.

Posted by Karol at April 3, 2007 01:38 AM | TrackBack
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I always knew you were crafty but I thought is was due to you being a Republican.

Posted by: Jake at April 3, 2007 10:22 AM

Hahah. I always thought it was because I was born in sneaky Soviet Union.

Posted by: Karol at April 3, 2007 10:37 AM

very recently, i was introduced to someone like this: 'This is PN, she's Jewish'. i wasn't offended by it, because, well, i am. but i still thought it was kind of weird.

Posted by: PN at April 3, 2007 11:12 AM

Bought a bookcase via craigslist' ad last week. In the sellers' apartment I had a long conversation with these people, a nice elderly couple renovating their place. They asked me a bunch of remodelling questions, we shared impressions of the neighborhood, etc. The wife said something about a cheating contractor, I replied with a similar tale of a moving Co.
And then the husband, a pleasant-looking white-haired former newspaper editor, says: "Did they have Jewish names?".
Sorry to say, I was too stunned for words to confront him; just changed the subject. Paid for my purchase and left...

Posted by: Tatyana at April 3, 2007 03:25 PM

We just had a reading about the Hebrews yesterday. They escaped Egypt, which I think is pretty crafty.

Posted by: Yaron at April 3, 2007 03:47 PM

We just had a reading about the Hebrews yesterday. They escaped Egypt, which I think is pretty crafty.

Hahahahaha. I miss Daily Lunch.

Posted by: Karol at April 3, 2007 03:59 PM

whats better for a seder? the Blood of a christian child or the blood of a muslim child? I'm leaning muslim.

Posted by: at April 3, 2007 04:26 PM

This is a very interesting topic.

His first comments about having big-time Jew lawyers is actually funny. The part about Jews being crafty is offensive. Neither statement should be said to the national media of course. but the blogger you linked did an excellent job of breaking down his comments.

In regards to your long-hair'd Frenchie, maybe he was looking at the star of David that you sometimes wear and this could all be a misunderstanding. In mid conversation about politics he looks down, sees the star and exclaims "wait, are you a Hebrew [I love Hebrews]"
Or maybe he realized some of his own beliefs about the Middle East or other sensitive topics to discuss with people of the Jewish faith now had become off limits. For instance what if he thought that America's support for Israel was the reason 9/11 happened. An American would may shrug off such a comment but a Hebreo-American (lol) may get offended. As it turns out you became offended regardless so I guess it didn't matter.

We all use stereotypes, although we should try not to. I know I frequently immediatly think certain things about someone based on how they look when I first meet them (hmmm first impressions). The first thing that comes to mind is that Irish people like to drink. Every year around St. Pat's the Irish-American community try's their hardest to prove this to everyone yet I know sooo many Irish people who do not drink. Yet even they are amused by the Irish drinking jokes.

You getting defensive about him trying to rationalize all your beliefs into one "Wait, are you Hebrew" comment... I see how it's offensive but in a way it should've been amusing. Like when the dude puts a burning candalabra in his jacket and we shrug it off as him being Irish and having one or two too many.

Sorry to ramble on.

Happy Passover ! If any of you guys have any of those Kosher for Passover Macaroons I'm a big buyer!!!!!

Posted by: Dan the Hebrew at April 4, 2007 11:38 AM

Dans comments are right on!! Maybe we should invite him to our annual meeting.

Posted by: Frank White at April 4, 2007 03:42 PM

Ssshhhh Frank, you know he's not a J-E-W.

Posted by: Karol at April 4, 2007 03:44 PM

But hes circumsized AND very cheap!! :) lol

Posted by: Frank White at April 4, 2007 03:46 PM

Could Dan have the horns inplanted???

Posted by: Matt at April 4, 2007 09:49 PM

You could have said what I say in these kinds of situations, albeit few and far between: "Not before now, but if it makes a difference, now that you mention it I'll gladly be a Jew."

Posted by: Paul A'Barge at April 5, 2007 02:20 PM
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