June 17, 2007
Advance Notice
I'm going to this on Wednesday:
June 20, 2007, 8:00pm: Debates at Lolita Bar: “Is It More Painful to Get Dumped or to Do the Dumping?” featuring art star and Anti-Slam host Rev. Jen Miller (”dumped”) and Rules for Saying Goodbye author Katherine Taylor (”do the dumping”), 8pm on June 20 (note that’s the third Wed. of the month, not the usual first Wed.). The debates, usually pitting two opponents against each other (in a civil and often humorous fashion), take place on the basement level of Lolita Bar at 266 Broome St. at the corner of Allen St. on the Lower East Side of Manhattan, one block south and three west of the Delancey St. F, J, M, Z subway stop. Todd Seavey hosts and Michel Evanchik moderates, most of the time.
The Lolita debates have a very libertarian-ish crowd and are always a good time. I actually saw upcoming debater Rev. Jen, at the aforementioned wedding of Warren and Chartreuse Velour, this weekend and told her I was of the position that it's harder to be the dumper. She said she would convince me otherwise.
Posted by Karol at June 17, 2007 09:00 PM | TrackBackTechnorati Tags: Lolita+Debates New+York+Events
It's all about the kind of person you are and how long people have been together. But I concur with you Karol, it's harder to be the dumper.
Posted by: Petitedov at June 17, 2007 11:29 PM"it's harder to be the dumper"
Every woman thinks that. Well, most.
Having been on both sides, I disagree. But maybe it actually varies by sex.
Posted by: someone at June 18, 2007 01:00 AMTo be a dumper? It's a relief, not a hardship.
I guess I'm not a typical woman.
I'll see if I could come, Karol.
Posted by: Tatyana at June 18, 2007 11:40 AMWhere have I heard "I'm going to Todd Seavey's debate" before...
Posted by: Charles at June 18, 2007 11:51 AMTo be a dumper? It's a relief, not a hardship.
In the long run, yes, absolutely. But in the short run it can be harder to come up with the impetus to do it. That's why I said harder, but not more painful--the debaters are using the phrase "more painful" but Karol said "harder," and I'm saying they're not interchangeable terms, at all. It can be harder to be the dumper, but it's far more painful to be the dumpee. Unless, of course, you were looking for an out but couldn't summon up the cojones to be the dumper. ;)
Posted by: Anwyn at June 18, 2007 12:01 PMTatyana said:
To be a dumper? It's a relief, not a hardship.
True, in the long term, but it can be very difficult to summon up the impetus to do the dumping at the outset. The debaters use the phrase "more painful;" Karol said "harder." My point is they're not interchangeable. It's mostly more *difficult* to do the dumping but almost always more *painful* to get dumped--unless you were just looking for an out and couldn't summon the brass to do the dumping. :)
Posted by: Anwyn at June 18, 2007 01:54 PMWhat Anwyn said.
Posted by: Petitedov at June 18, 2007 03:49 PMIts easiest to be the better looking person. Speaking as one who's been on both ends of that one.
Posted by: Avery J. Knapp Jr. at June 19, 2007 11:07 AMOn the second thought - I better not go. Too much life experience, nothing to debate.
Posted by: Tatyana at June 19, 2007 07:17 PMI'm like 60% to attend this tonight, in case that 40% that I won't attend changes anything for anyone.
Posted by: Karol at June 20, 2007 12:51 PM
